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“Growing old is not for sissies” – Bette Davis

Sir Ben Kingsley does it admirably (I mean unlike a super hero denying his age) in the recent movie Elegy, he goes about accepting it with pangs of desire, possessiveness, jealousy etc. for a lady 30 years younger than his age and with a feeling of inadequacy like any normal male would do at his age. His ability to move the audience comes from a genuine center as he acknowledges in a BBC interview. In another interview, in answering a question whether he considers himself a sexy beast, he says, “I have to tell you, (two nights ago) a woman approached, and told me that I was the sexiest man alive, and that she had to tell me that.”

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Greatest motivators for decisions are greed, fear and laziness. – Edward De Bono

No one needs case studies with decisions taken to satisfy one’s greed.  History is replete with such decisions. Casinos would go out of business if there is no such thing as greed.

Fear coming in the way of rational thinking is also understandable. Either we take some actions out of fear or freeze and do nothing out of fear.

Staying in a relationship (that deteriorates by the day) for fear of the alternative – comes to my mind as a good example.

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What’s missing in this picture? A cup of coffee? And some cookies to complement? Or you may say this is totally out of place (and anachronistic). This guy should have a laptop; instead he is holding a newspaper that he is pretending to read. Besides where is his Smartphone to show how important or how busy he is? If you belong to the ‘modern age’, living a digital life; you are apt to say so.

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Once in a while I used to travel back in time. This time I went back to the time when I was six years old and wondered back then what I liked most.  Not my toys, not my friends, definitely not my elementary school but my time with my mom. I remembered the bedtime stories she narrated while putting me to sleep.
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This week I read an interesting article titled “Jailhouse Cop” in Newsweek. It was about a sheriff who locked himself voluntarily in a cell for a week, just to know what it feels like to be in jail. As it appears Mark Curran, the sheriff of Lake County, Illinois is a devout catholic, a soft-hearted man who talks about love, religion and the importance of family in building a crime free society.


Some may see his voluntary incarceration as just another publicity stunt from a politician and I too am leaning towards that view, though I would love to be wrong. He himself admits he could not have drawn the attention of a major publication like Newsweek about the appalling conditions prevailing in the prison had it not been for his strange act.  That, conditions in the prison are dreadful and good parenting goes a long way in rearing law abiding citizens, is known for long. So what’s new here? While he has initiated commendable projects like ‘Malachi’ for the benefit of prison inmates, my focus is on this particular act. 

I don’t know if he had laid himself some specific objectives to achieve before confining himself in a cell. If so, has he achieved them? But whatever it be, he has put himself in harm’s way by being in the midst of prison inmates, some of whom may be violent. Or some who are mentally disturbed may overwhelm him to relieve their pent up feelings. Remember, he is there as a ‘prisoner’ and he cannot carry any means to protect him should someone ‘take a swing at him’ as he puts it. Even if he takes the swing, will his love or sympathy for the prisoners be the same after an attack?

Bottom line is, he is a good man but with a troubled conscience (and God only knows what it is that troubles him) which he tried to clear some way. This leads us to the inevitable question, “What can a single individual do to cure a disease or remove a curse that afflicts our society at large?”

For this, in my opinion, Wallace D Whittle has the definitive answer. To quote him verbatim,

” Things are not brought into being by thinking about their opposites. Health is never to be attained by studying disease and thinking about disease; righteousness is not to be promoted by studying sin and thinking about sin; ……
Medicine as a science of disease has increased disease; religion as a science of sin has promoted sin, and economics as a study of poverty will fill the world with wretchedness and want.
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True, there may be a good many things in existing conditions which are disagreeable, but what is the use of studying them when they are certainly passing away and when the study of them only tends to slow their passing and keep them with us? Why give time and attention to things which are being removed by evolutionary growth, when you can hasten their removal only by promoting the evolutionary growth as far as your part of it goes?
No matter how horrible in seeming may be the conditions in certain countries, sections, or places, you waste your time and destroy your own chances by dwelling on them.”


If this sounds too religious to you, you may want to take the view of US Marshal Samuel Gerard (Tommy Lee Jones in the movie ‘The Fugitive’) who wouldn’t let go the ‘prisoner on the run’ (Harrison Ford) while confronting him face to face. Though he may choose to believe Harrison Ford is wrongfully accused, he prefers to arrest him and take him back to prison. When he says, “I don’t care” he works in the capacity of a police officer.

I quite remember the day I took possession of  the mighty weapon in my hand. Before your imagination runs wild, let me interrupt to say that, I meant the TV remote control. Till such time I was introduced to this technological wonder of that time, I used to grudgingly get up and change channels. Then came this wonder. Thanks to it I changed channels at will without so much as lifting my hand and pointing it towards the screen. I could not help myself saying, “How cool is that”


In my college days our group were doing a project on industrial automation and I was on home turf building the circuitry using hydraulic cylinders, limit switches, cables and other mechanical parts etc. Because each component of the system was somehow  physically connected to the other and it was easy to put a trace on the circuitry, and so was a no-brainer to figure things out. But while our project worked, it looked so mundane compared to others using radio controlled devices, photo sensors etc and hence were perceived to be “so cool.”

Before cable TV came to our neighborhood, every time we moved our residence, three of us were required to ensure proper reception of TV signals. Myself on the terrace assembling the aluminum tubes on a frame, fiddling with it and pointing towards the TV transmission tower, my son on the ground giving me a thumbs up or thumbs down depending on whether my wife can see moving images(crisp and clear) on the screen inside the house.  Though I understood very little of the  technology behind transmission and reception of TV signals then,  I considered myself to be “high tech”, simply because I could get TV signals in my home.

As the years went by I noticed that some kind of a cult status is accorded to even a lowly technician who troubleshoots such a simple thing as a TV remote control, not to speak of fixing wireless keyboard or mouse, wireless networking, Satellite TV.  And I wondered, is it because in such things, much of what happens is invisible and behind the screen?

I am sure there are customers like me who would expect and gladly pay top dollar to have such things fixed and remain content to say to ourselves “How cool is that” every time a new toy works in the wireless world. I have always been fascinated by ‘wireless technology’ but was either too busy or too timid to venture into unknown territory. And have I missed the bus in the ‘wireless world’?


But you don’t have to despair like me. With the mighty Internet at your command, there are thousands of web sites that can teach you or point you in the right direction to learn all that you want to learn about wireless technology. For a start you may want to visit www.howstuffworks.com and type in ‘radio or wireless transmission’ and move on from there.

In the Internet world, if you can type, you can learn. How cool is that?

41% of registered voters in Canada didn’t choose to exercise their right to vote in the recent federal election. I was one of them. Neither did any of my family members of voting age went to the booth to cast their vote. Apart from some pressing personal problems that we had to deal with in our family, it was also a plain indifference that made us stay at home.  


While I didn’t have any interest in Canadian politics, I was curious to find out why there was a poor voter turnout in the recent election and why there were so many like me who displayed such apathy.

I found two articles that gave quite convincing answers:

  1. What if they gave an election and nobody won? By ANDREW COYNE in the Macleans magazine.
  2. Parties stick with obsolete strategies by Michael Geist in the Toronto Star.

While Andrew Coyne explains in clear detail what is ailing our (Canadian) electoral system, he says little about what is the cure that can be applied, given the constraints that he mentioned in the article.

For instance it is understandable that when he says that we have five parties competing to form a majority government, and it is highly unlikely that such a majority government will be formed.

While I am not competent to answer many of his questions in the last paragraph of his article, there was one question (Why do so many people no longer bother to vote?) that interested me.

I could find some answer for it in the second article by Michael Geist. It was spot-on to suggest that our parties failed to capitalize on what the Internet can offer with its Web 2.0 technologies.

As the article puts it correctly that no party in Canada realized that the Internet is no longer just a broadcast medium, but also a communication and participation tool.

So it would have been prudent upon the parties to encourage and build up a strong Internet community debating several issues confronting the government, the country (not just electoral issues and not just partisan blogs favoring its own policies) to make it known where each party stands. And that should have begun long before the elections were announced.

This to some extent counteracted the strategy of Steven Harper to declare an election at short notice and quietly win it before anybody took notice. That also would have helped change some of the undecided voters and draw in some of the uninvolved voters (like me).


Contrast our electoral processes with that of our neighbors down south where potential voters actively participate using the Internet and make it known whom they favor long before the elections are called out. They not only contribute monetarily to the campaigns of political candidates online, but also upload their own videos of what they find interesting/important about the candidates and their policies and write blogs to share their views with others in the community.

It is reasonable to expect that such potential voters who so enthusiastically participate will definitely take the initiative to vote.

Recently I was reading an article in Toronto Star about our weaning faith in human ingenuity. For a moment, fear and disappointment froze me and put me out of action. But I recovered soon enough to realize that our faith in human ingenuity may be in short supply, but there is no short supply of human ingenuity.

The article quotes Nouriel Roubini, the distinguished professor of Economics at Harvard University as having said in his web site “One cannot rule out a systematic collapse and a global depression.”

That’s one hell of a depressing remark. What makes it eerie is that his prediction about global economic meltdown in the year 2006 has come to pass very accurately. So much so that governments all over, seek an appointment with him to take his counsel in these turbulent times. 


He goes further to say that the way the economy moving, its state would be even worse than what he has predicted 2 years ago. But of course Mr. Roubini has admitted that he is a confirmed pessimist. He says he came to this conclusion after extensive research and analysis of the then available data and trends.

But I am a born optimist. I don’t have the qualifications, experience, or reach of Mr. Roubini but my strong sense of intuition says that the world will overcome its difficulties and emerge stronger.  Apart from my intuition, I also put trust in creativity of humanity as a whole to solve problems of this size.
And I would like to quote Edward De Bono in his book ‘Serious Creativity’, in support of my trust. 

When he talks about the need for creativity he says,
” …. whenever we look at the world we are only too ready to see the world in terms of our existing patterns … That is what makes perception so powerful and so useful. We can recognize most situations. This is also why the analysis of information will not yield new ideas. The brain can only see what it is prepared to see (existing patterns). So when we analyze data we can only pick out the idea we already have.”

We should not stand paralyzed with fear or self pity or resist what is happening.  I am forced to repeat the trite saying, “We do what we have got to do.” The following story makes this point very clearly.

Courtesy driver Douglas Prasher at one of the Toyota dealerships in Huntsville was once a research scientist who collected jelly fish for its strange glow. During the course of his research he isolated and copied the gene responsible for its strange glow. He believed that this property could be used to highlight molecular functions that are otherwise invisible.


As fate would have it, his research grant ran out, with NASA slashing his funding. With mounting bills to be paid, he did what he thought was the sensible thing to do. He took a job as a courtesy driver so that he can make some promising business contacts.

But he also did the noblest thing in my opinion, in turning over the gene he isolated, to this year’s Nobel Laureates in Chemistry, Chalfie, and Tsien for further research. At a news conference in San Diego after winning the award, Tsien said Phrasher’s work made the research that led to the Nobel Prize possible.
Imagine being left out of the team that went on to win the Nobel Prize. But this doesn’t bother Phrasher one bit. Remember he faced his Great Depression in his life at one point. But still he did what he had to do.

If every one of us like Phrasher goes with the tide doing what best one can do, instead trying to swim against it, there will be abundance of opportunity.

The point is our resourcefulness is not in short supply.

The world will survive and prosper provided greed doesn’t interfere once again.

Recently I read an article in Time titled “‘Tis the Season of Six-Inch Stilettos” that goes in some depth as to why women wear those Stilettos.

As the article points out,  the reasons are many:

  • Women want to project an image that is both powerful and feminine.
  • To be fashionable, to overcome peer pressure or to satisfy their need for  vanity.
  • Long legs communicate a healthy youth and good breeding potential.
  • Women enjoy sex more, if they walk in high heeled shoes. Because according to an Italian study, it conditions the pelvic muscles.

Sometimes it comes in handy as a tool to protect oneself ( Stiletto in Italian means dagger ) from sexual predators. That’s my understanding from seeing movies.


However none of these come close to what I learnt from a TV commercial (Shopping Channel) or a TV Program ( one of those makeover programs for women). I don’t remember which one. But it gave a very scientific explanation of why women wear high-heeled shoes.

I am a student of science and I always appreciate a scientific explanation.

To share my knowledge with you using an illustration, I did an exhaustive research. I was looking for images of women in high heeled shoes that would prove the point as to why they need them.
It might surprise many of you, I could not find any illustration that would do justice.

  • If the shoes are good, women are not so attractive.
  • If the women are good looking, shoes are ugly.
  • If they are both good, the photograph is too suggestive that they pander to carnal desires. You may want to look at them, but I have some editorial standards to maintain you know?
  • or they don’t strike a pose that would explain the scientific theory behind wearing those shoes.

After much sifting, this image came close to what I had in mind.

You can see  the young woman in a cocktail dress walking gracefully in her stiletto. What actually happens is that the high heeled shoes lifts her body upward and tilts it forward (resulting in her bust thrusting forward). If she lets go without counteracting it, gravity will pull her forward and she will eventually fall on her face. So to nullify this forward pulling force, she jets out her posterior as a counterbalance. This she does naturally without conscious attempt, resulting in a grace that we all appreciate.

There is a happy coincidence in this delicate balancing act, that her breasts and butt project outward making  them even more attractive. Even those women who are not so physically endowed look attractive in them.

So there you have it.  The reason behind their inexplicable obsession with possessing many pairs of high heeled shoes.


If you ask them,”Honey are you comfortable in those shoes?”  they will more likely ignore that question and counter that with “How do I look?’

Up front I must be honest with you. While the rest of this article is mine, the title of this post belongs to my friend and colleague at my office. While we were discussing about corporate scandals, he said that he cannot state with any level of certainty that God exists. But he knew for sure that evil starts with complacency. 

Reflecting on what he said about corporate scandals I tend to agree with him. Today we have reached a situation where we treat the venerable financial statements as myths and start to wonder how much of them are true.


At any of the following stages in the evolution of a corporate scandal, person or persons involved could have blown the whistle and let the investing public and authorities concerned know that something is amiss and needs some review/investigation.
But they prefer to remain complacent and do nothing.

Stages of corporate downfall:

  1. Idea being conceived in the brain storming sessions of corporate ‘smarts’ (Example: Morgan Chase thought of offloading the risk from their balance sheet to banks as assets or Enron conceived the idea of selling Energy as a commodity)
  2. Plan executed with finesse in total secrecy and promoted as the next big thing.
  3. Investors being led to believe that it is a now or never opportunity. ( Example: banks/insurance companies/pension funds vie with each other to carry the risk offloaded by investment banks as assets on their balance sheets)
  4. Top executives show spectacular results from quarter to quarter and award themselves impressive cash bonuses or stock options in so far the going is good.
  5. Employees tend to believe and go with whatever good news management doles out to them. They show their enthusiasm by enhancing their contribution to the 401(K) plans
  6. Auditors (both internal and external) certify that to the ‘best of their knowledge’ the statements presented to them are true and accurate. (Arthur Andersen did an excellent job in certifying Enron’s financial statements. I wonder who the auditors of Nortel Networks were. Thanks to them restating of financial statements became fashionable.)
  7. News media/ investment analysts gobble up stories presented by the management of such ‘excellent’ companies and award ranks for ‘performance’. (One notable exception being the story ‘how exactly Enron gets its revenue? in Fortune Magazine.
  8. A year or two goes by and then word slowly gets around that things are not as rosy as they are painted out to be. Top executives manage to get themselves fired with excellent severance pay.
  9. Stock prices nose dive. Since the top executives have already been safely bailed out, it is now time for the government to work out the bail out details of the corporation.
  10. Finally employees and investing public are left holding the bag not knowing what to do next.



I am sure in any of the above stages there are a few honest souls with a troubled conscience who would only be too relieved to blow the whistle. But they would have been restrained from doing so for fear of consequences.

I think in the Internet age it is not difficult to post anonymously about things going wrong in the corporate world. Even if this is considered to be too risky, they can give notice about failing entities in a circuitous (hush-hush) fashion giving appropriate clues for the readers to solve the puzzle.

My sincere request for the people ‘in the know’ is to speak up before it is too late.